The earthquake and tsunami have once again reminded us just how easily everything can be taken away from any of us in an instant, and now, a terrifying nuclear crisis is unfolding before our very eyes.
May they find a way to cool the reactors and spent rod pools very soon, and may aid start flowing into the country for those in need.
I lived in the Philippines for 3 years as a teen and many of my friends and fellow students were Japanese. My heart goes out to this beautiful, bustling, complex country.
It can be hard to connect a natural (and man-made) disaster to your own life, especially when it’s happening across the globe, in a culture very different from our own.
But this is an amazing opportunity to acknowledge the good things that you’re taking for granted and in doing so, open your own hearts, connecting yourself to our planetary neighbors - whether in spirit or by donating to relief efforts.
Some context for ya....
From David J. Smith's book, If the World Were a Village:
“At this moment, there are more than 6 billion people on the planet! It's hard to picture so many people at one time -- but what if we imagine the whole world as a village of just 100 people?
In this village:
- 22 people speak a Chinese dialect
- 20 earn less than a dollar a day
- 17 cannot read or write
- 60 are always hungry [emphasis mine]
- 24 have a television”
Other facts found online about those same 100 inhabitants:
Of all the wealth in your village, 6 people (all American) would own 59% of it.
Only one person has a college degree.
20 people in the village would consume 80% of all the energy, leaving 80 people to share the rest.
Only 7 people have a computer or access to the internet.
So as you can see, we’re blessed in a multitude of ways, though this is easy to forget.
Gratitude is often simply a matter of focus.
Which begs the question: where do you habitually turn your attention?
To the things going right -- or wrong?
Automatically tackling our problems with a laser beam, a bulldozer, or a truckload of how-to manuals is a carry-over from our caveman days, when we needed to figure out a daily strategy for staying alive that worked.
But we’re lucky enough not to have to worry about being eaten by a saber-toothed tiger anymore.
Instead, we now have the luxury of turning our attention to “first-world” problems.
Struggling in jobs we hate. Feeling unappreciated in our marriages. Wondering how we let our children slide down the slippery slope to valuing their friends and texting more than their own families.
Fretting over the latest incident with the mom interfering in your life again. Hating your ex.
If you find yourself feeling guilty because you see yourself in the list above -- don’t.
It’s meant as a reminder: there is always good and bad in life.
Maybe you’re just neglecting the good, like a plant accidentally left out on the porch at night, in the cold.
Can we all just take a step back and look around?
Can we all just glide above the clouds a bit and survey the ground below us?
What are all the things that are going well in your life that you take for granted?
Where are you basking in abundance and don’t even see it?
With close friends? Family that’s always there for you? A roof over your head? Good books and websites you love? The presence of nature around you? Healthy food? The safety and stability of a country not at war?
I’ll be eternally grateful that we figured out a way through the muddy morass that used to be our two households, after my ex got remarried.
I’m grateful that I love my ex still and Carol, his wife, and the stepmom to my kids -- and that they’re two of my closest friends. I'm grateful that our children have more adults in their lives, watching over them and fretting about them, more people to connect with, to love them and nourish them.
I’m grateful for my partner in this work, Jenna.
And I feel so lucky that I get to do work that makes even a small, but genuine difference in some people’s lives.
I hope our story can inspire you to shoot for more in your divorce-connected family. Even if your situation is tense and conflict-ridden, I hope our site helps you to see that you have more power to create peace FOR YOURSELF that you ever knew.
Here’s a video I posted recently on Facebook, in the wee hours (part 2 is here):
And now, let’s send a thought bubble of love and healing out across the ocean, to Japan....
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