Overcome Dual-Family Conflict With Proven Strategies For Creating Peace At Home!
Many divorced moms and stepmoms feel doomed to a lifetime of power struggles when the other household is indifferent or openly hostile.
Skirts at War is a reassuring and playful hands-on guide to thriving as a stepparent, remarried mom or single parent, even if the other side won't meet you halfway.
"Skirts at War is an exciting new addition to the stepfamily field. It provides stepfamily members with the necessary tools to lead happy, healthy lives, regardless of their particular challenges. Every stepfamily should have a copy of this book."
-Rachelle Katz, Ed.D., psychotherapist and author of The Happy Stepmother: Stay Sane, Empower Yourself, Thrive in Your New Family
"Through personal accountability, Skirts at War shows parents and stepparents how to restore a sense of belonging and significance to their children and stepchildren. A hopeful, upbeat guide. Highly recommended!"
- Amy McCready, The Today Show parenting contributor, author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time..., Founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, Inc.
"I wish this book had been around 14 years ago when I first met my stepchildren-to-be and their mother. Just like no one can prepare you for the birth of your first child, there is no way to prepare for the acquisition of a family in progress (or what I like to call, Love and Landmines). Skirts at War puts you at ease and quiets the guilty mommy mind by assuring the reader: what you are about to undertake goes against natural law—so really, you're already a superhero just by virtue of opening your heart to these relationships. What a beautifully strong and positive place to begin what may be the most challenging and gratifying part of your journey."
- Gina Torres, actress (Suits, Firefly, Serenity), mom and stepmom, married to Laurence Fishburne
This must-read book contains the wisdom of both the authors and a thriving community of moms and stepmoms.
- Peggy Nolan, Owner & Founder, The Stepmom’s Toolbox
How to handle some of the biggest problems
Instincts - why yours are working against you - and what to do instead
Support - how to sidestep well-meaning, but sabotaging advice
Men - a man in the middle describes how fathers see their interconnected roles
Expectations - why your “perfectly reasonable” assumptions set you up for disappointment and resentment
Self-Worth - why old issues from your past are easily triggered and how to desensitize them
Boundaries - how to transfer responsibilities to the right shoulders and stop overdoing for others
Interactive, with plenty of real-life examples
Divided into three user-friendly sections for quick reference: Problems, Power Tools and Making Progress, it also includes:
- over 100 comments from community members, eager to share their hard-won insights
- 20 interactive quizzes, assessments and how-tos
- 60 journal questions designed to easily move you forward
- over 100 affirming mantras to ground and center you
- a chapter by Jenna Korf's husband, Mario, written directly to divorced fathers
About the authors
Jennifer Newcomb Marine (right) is the co-author of No One's the Bitch: A Ten-Step Plan for Mothers and Stepmothers, which was co-written with Carol Marine, stepmom to her children.
Jenna Korf (left) is a certified Stepfamily Foundation coach at her site, Stepmom Help and a regular contributor to StepMom Magazine.
"Wow, just wow! Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Jenna Korf have gifted us with what I now call the new bible for moms and stepmoms who are struggling to maintain their positions within their families without losing themselves in the process. Jenna and Jennifer trace the evolution of the fear both bio- and stepmoms experience in going against their natural instincts and shows us that we don’t have to stay stuck in our own, sometimes selfish, emotional universe. This book allows us to examine what we are really telling ourselves, not just as
mothers or stepmothers, but as women. In an age where stepfamilies make up more than half of the marriages in the United States, this book is a breath of fresh air. Simply put, Skirts at War teaches us to assign issues to their rightful owners and release what we cannot control. As a stepfamily coach, I personally recommend this book to all parents and stepparents who want to move past the pain and fear and get to surviving and thriving!"
- Diane M. Greene, Publisher, Today’s Modern Family